Thinking about what fits. And what doesn’t.

Chris Brogan’s latest newsletter this week has me thinking about fit.

(And if you haven’t subscribed to his newsletter, I highly recommend it. I know what you’re thinking–everyone recommends Chris Brogan.  There’s a reason for that.)

At any rate, Chris was talking about not fitting in anywhere, and how that’s probably a good thing.  So if you’re an enneagram 4, and the defining characteristic of your personality is feeling like you don’t fit in, it was definitely going to speak to you.  Loudly.

"Rocket-Bye Baby" (R) Warner Brothers 1956

But as I turned the ideas over in my head a bit, I started thinking about fit in a different way.  In a very healthy way, I stopped singing my personal song of lament about being the switched-at-birth Martian baby in my family.

Instead of thinking about how I’ve always had a hard time fitting in, I started thinking about the relationships, priorities, and activities in my life and how they fit together.  Or more importantly, where they don’t fit well.

"quilt squares" courtesy bewinca on sxc

If my life is a quilt, what doesn’t fit the pattern?  And do those pieces need trimming to fit better, or do they just need to return to the scrap bag?

There must be something in the air this week, because Liz Strauss had an excellent post covering similar ground earlier this week.  Liz’ post is about finding proper fit in working relationships, and the process that helps you get to a better fit.

So what about you?  We talked a little last week about the big thing you still need to let go of to move on.

What doesn’t need to be ditched, but could use some massaging?

How do you figure out whether or not someone or something is going to click neatly into place in your life?

How long does it take you to accept and address the stuff that doesn’t fit?